Those of you from English speaking countries, do you use this expression also in metaphoric sense? Because when you say “female weapons” in Czech, it doesn’t go for self-defense objects for women but something completely different – (mainly) bodily features they use to get what they want from men. Therefore, when you hear someone saying: “She used her female weapons”, you can be sure the mentioned person has exposed, accentuated or generally made more noticeable the things that men (supposedly) appreciate on women.
I can hear the feminists shouting out loud there; I don’t like the meaning either, nor do I approve of when someone uses her (or his, to be fair) appearance to get something, be it better grades, higher salary or simply attention. It’s embarassing for me as to witness such behavior. However, the original purpose of this article wasn’t to judge others but to talk about what do “female weapons” mean for me.
Although the tomboy-me who hated pink, ruffles, bows or anything considered “girly” has no longer such a strong voice when it comes to clothing, I still think of myself like that. Kind of. In these times the term “tomboy” may be outdated, at least when we speak of girls doing the same activities as boys or dressing like boys. (And while we are at the topic of gender equality, do boys borrow style elements from girls? How do the society view them if they do so? Here – a problem. Men are probably pushed more to be “manly” than women to be “feminine”. Men even don’t have equally wide range of fashion goods. Their departments in stores are smaller in this country.)
But when I’m about to face something very important – to defend my thesis or to interview for a job I’d really like to land in- it’s true that certain things help me feel more confident, more secure. And that these things might be considered as typically feminine and few years back I wouldn’t tell using them would empower me. Knights have their armors and swords, and I have… a lipstick and heels.
Lipstick in dusty rose. It’s not screaming for attention (even on fancier occassion I don’t feel good with red lips, don’t know how to pull them off) but it accentuates my natural lip color enough to be noticed.
Heels – I always thought I’m just not the type to wear heels. It was too uncomfortable, I felt unstable and ridiculous while waggling on the streets. The revolution came when I finally found a pair of very nice, comfortable and stable shoes that allowed me to walk all day without noticing – something that I thought was generally impossible for heels.
Of course the walking may be a little bit slower because dependent on the heel height you have to adjust the length of your footstep. But unless you put on 15cm stilettos you’re fine. My optimal height is 5-7 cm – can do anything in them. And I’m not talking wedges as I don’t like how they look. I never had problems regarding being petite but those extra centimeters definitely boost my confidence.
Do you have some “female weapons”, too?